Saturday, 28 May 2011

Raising Our Children Raising Ourselves

“If there is anything we wish to change in the child, we should first
examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be
changed in ourselves.” Carl G. Jung

I was drawn to reading Naomi Aldorts book "Raising Our Children Raising Ourselves" 
a long time before i actually held a copy in my hands.  Somehow I knew this book was an important read when i came across
but now i realise it is an essential one. I have at times been really struggling with my role as a mother and with feelings of failure when it comes to dealing with my 3 year olds tantrums or 'antisocial' behaviour such as biting or kicking. She has reminded me to take a step back from the behaviour encouraging me to look at my stuff and
to really listen to my son to find out what the real need is rather than storming in with the No's and the don'ts. 
I've found that my relationship with my son is improving due to the practical advise, especially of the S.A.L.V.E technique (see below), 
but of course it takes work, a whole heap of work. I know however from the improvements that it is worth it.
By gently and respectfully parenting our children,
listening to them and trusting them, it strengthens our relationships and allows them to be the best they can be and that they already are. 

"How do we connect kindly with a child who is hitting, grabbing or making a mess? In the normal course of events most of us are looking for a way to “stop” whatever is going wrong. Yet, stopping the child’s expression does not stop the child’s feelings and does not eliminate the cause; it only hurts and confuses the child. Our purpose therefore is not to stop the child’s expression (if safe), but to understand why he must be doing it so we can attend to the cause. Even if not safe, stopping her is only a temporary measure and the cause must be addressed; we must connect and find solutions to her underlying need.
When a child is screaming or hitting, he must have failed to get his needs met in any other way because we have not responded to his subtler cues. There is no reason to feel guilty for not understanding a child; only to embrace our humanity and move on. We are learning to communicate and listen better, so we can understand the child before he is desperate. The following is a formula that will help you transform your habitual reactions into love and understanding:

Raising Our Children, is indeed Raising Ourselves. To care for the child, you must rise out of your own old repetitive thoughts planted in your mind long ago. Gaining freedom from the tyranny of old thoughts is the first step of the SALVE formula:
S - Silent Self-inquiry
A - Attention on your child
L - Listen to what your child is saying or to what his actions may be indicating
V - Validate your child’s feelings and the needs he expresses without adding or dramatising
E - Empower your child to resolve his own upset by getting out of his way and trusting him

Don't just take my word for it or for that matter Naomis, get her book, dip into her website 
and give it a try. 

Monday, 9 May 2011

Life Alignment teaching comes to Oslo spring 2012?

Life Alignment is an incredible technique that i believe will transform many lives and because of my own experience of its benefits its a technique that i really want to train in as an addition to the healing tools that i already offer. I have already been in contact with one of the teachers in the UK, Cherry Tyfield, because its not currently taught in Norway (although it used to be) and she's said that if i can get a minimum of 10 people together who want to train in this technique then she would be willing to come to Oslo in spring 2012 to teach it. SOOO if you are interested please get in touch via my e-mail address: and let me know. What a fabulous opportunity.

The Life Alignment system of healing is quite extraordinary. It is a profound and powerful method of healing, personal empowerment and transformation and it consists of a number of different healing systems which address all aspects of our life experiences. Deep healing and restoration of harmony within yourself and others is possible with this technique. It's a system of natural healing that aligns your subtle and physical bodies using Kinesiology and dowsing to identify the root causes of pain, stress, illness, emotional blocks and limiting belief patterns. It transmutes negative energies and empowers you to bring about transformation and a conscious reality of balance and alignment with your self and the world you 

Our bodies are made up of electromagnetic fields that hold our negative emotions. These can be accessed and released using Life Alignment techniques and as each one is released we are able to vibrate at a higher frequency and lighten our load emotionally and electrically. Once blockages are released, the energy flow is restored, and the emotional stress is freed to bring back a state of health and happiness. This form of healing gives you a spiritual and emotional detox. It assists in the experience of empowerment and awareness and is a tool for both personal and global transformation. 

In the recently published book Life Alignment Philippa Lubbock tells the wonderful story of how one of today's foremost healers, Dr Jeff Levin, came to understand that he was being given a special message - and the gift of practising and teaching this extraordinarily powerful new vibrational healing method. In the course of her account she explains how the healing system works. The mind controls the body, with the result that self-limiting beliefs and repressed feelings are the real root cause of illness. The corollary of this is that everything we need to heal is actually within us. Life Alignment works with the individual's higher consciousness - which is accessed through muscle testing and dowsing - to ascertain the root causes of the disease. Then, with the help of Dr Levin's powerful Life Alignment Vortex Cards, the healing process happens - rapidly and with incredible ease. Here are heart-warming and astonishing stories of how ordinary people lucky enough to have discovered Life Alignment have been instantly healed - from a range of physical and mental problems. Philippa's own story demonstrates the extraordinary power of the Life Alignment Vortex Cards which are just one aspect of this miraculous new system of healing: ' - I visited a blood microscopist in Devon, to carry out an experiment using my own blood. Placing 3 Vortex cards on my body changed my blood cells from unhealthy to healthy in minutes. Normally this kind of transformation takes a minimum of 3 months and a strict diet to change previously unhealthy misshapen cells, which we all have, to healthy, round cells.' Life Alignment will genuinely change your life." Amazon

Life Alignment is certified as a recognised School of the Association of Energy Therapists and on the British Complementary Medicine Association (BCMA) Affiliated School Register. (BCMA Aff). Practitioners are entitled to become full BCMA members. "

Come and train in this fabulous technique i am sure it will be worth it.

Update: Life Alignment comes to Oslo March 23rd-25th 2012

Saturday, 7 May 2011

New International Mother's Group in Oslo

So i've finally set up the international mother's group that i've been meaning to establish for a while- Freya's Oslo International Mother's Group. It was something i was looking for when i first moved to Oslo and didn't find so i just felt this second time around with baby number two that i should make it happen. On posting my first meeting i discovered that while busy in the early days with baby Sebastian The International Mother and Baby Group Oslo was established offering a similar thing, oops. Obviously great minds think alike and i do think the more opportunities the merrier, i hope they do too! So if you are in Oslo and feel like meeting up with other mother's with or without your children then take a look at these pages and come along to meet some new people. I really look forward to meeting you.

update 2012 My group has a new name: Freya's International Mothers/Fathers Group

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